She Bleaches The Baby  

That depends on you, can you live without her friendship? And honestly I do agree that chemicals like that do not belong on such young and tender skin... That is your call I will not give you my opinoin of what I'd do, cause I think you already know.

What does she use on them?

Not sure how the law would view her actions. The chemicals are being absorbed in the blood stream through the skin and babies are always sucking their fingers and sticking their hands in their mouths - lightening chemicals on their hands would be ingested and therefore presents a danger. I believe she may be setting herself up for charges of "child abuse".

A smart, savvy or scared doctor should notice the treatments and by law would report it - otherwise they are setting themselves up for prosecution and potential suspension of license.

Yes , because i think it can be dangerous for the baby.

OMG!!!!!! She should be arrested for this crime! How can she put all those chemicals on her 9month old son???? This is unacceptable i thing you should tell daddy

Unfortunately how long would it take for a doctor to notice, if she/or he does indeed notice...How much of the chemicals would be ingested by then? It's not good for the baby but it's not good for the other children as well, what will they think of their original skin colour...not good for their self esteem.

Oh that is not good - her baby is going to be discolored when he grows up to his teenage years!!!!!!

Now hold on..... You dont run off and tell the dad. First you talk to the mom and let her know that you are contemplating tell someone. The dad whatnot.
When you get into the realm of child abuse and neglect and whatnot you'd better be damn sure its the right thing to do for the child.
The mom needs full and advance warning if your going to tell someone about what shes doing.
I would also call your local family protective services and ask if in fact bleaching your childs skin with skin lightening products is indeed a crime.
Then armed with that knowledge talk to the mom. Let her know what she is doing is not just wrong but is a crime. This may change her mind. If not then let her know you feel compelled to bring in other people for the sake of the child.
You might find that its not a crime. I dont know. But when your messing around with someones kids and you find out your WRONG....wow you've just screwed up big time.
I absolutely thing it could be damaging to the childs self esteem later in life...but that doesnt mean its child abuse.
Just think very carefully....do a little research and then inform the mother before you do anything drastic.

Respectfully,
Lizard

Lizard if he warns her she just may turn around and hide it more. then the children pay for it in the long run.

Nope I stick to it. She needs to be warned before he turns her in. And he needs to know for sure that it is a crime. She will not be able to hide it from investigaters.(sp?) If the accusation is that she is lightening her babys skin thats what they'll be looking for. They would do a full physical on him Im sure.
If this is a crime....then call her tell your calling the authorities...and the Dad.

THis is where I disagree no matter waht she is teaching her children that their skin colour is bad- and it's not, definitely something to be ashamed of, yet how are they gonna feel; Mama thinks it's something to be ashamed of... second there is no possible way that the chemicals are good for those children and the baby. 3rd, She already knows what she is doing is wrong, otherwise why would she hide it from the husband/ father of those children? NO matter what IN MY OPINION that mother, has got a chip on her shoulders and her children are paying the price for it... NO way,- she is in the wrong and she knows it- she hides it.... And those children are too young to stand against their mother or to even try and consider where her frame of mind is...that is wrong, to be ashamed of your children's skin colour!

WHATS NEXT???? I am gonna say a prayer....

This borders on child abuse. Now physical, later emotional. Shame on her.

Do tell. she should be hung!. If she is using hydroquinone to bleach the child at such an early age, she is putting that child's health at risk!!!

It's not against the law what she's doing, but it really depends on what chemicals she is using. It would be easier if we know what she is using so that you can inform her of the dangers. If she's using anything other than arbutin, which is quite safe, then she's running serious and unnecessary health risks.

I know you've mentioned this before, but would you mind explaining this in greater detail? What will happen?

I would have called child services on her a**

To make the child lighter and put their appearance ahead of their health is not only stupid but also selfish!

Be VERY careful to get child protective services involved!!! PLEASE...They will go interview her and twist and turn everything she says so that they can take the child away. It's a very flawed system. Most of the time the kids go to a worse place, to families that only foster children for money. Many children get abused by the very people that foster them, or by the institution they are sent to!... They are better off with their mother who loves them. Of course if the abuse was extreme, like sexual, or hitting them with sticks till they bleed, starving them etc. then yes you should report it....But this is just a case where the mom does not understand the real dangers of lighting their skin. She loves her kids and wants the best for them. Why would you risk taking that child away from his mother and putting him in a horrible system, no please.

Explain to the mother that it is dangerous, show her this forum if you have to, or google some info on it and show that to her. Tell her that people will notice and might call the cops on her, and that her baby can be taken away. Educate her on the dangers.

But don't get CPS involved, remember the state makes A LOT of money off of this, They make it almost impossible to get your children back, and if you don't have money for a good lawyer your screwed. ...Now one will care for and love that child like his own mom, whether she is making a mistake or not. I read somewhere once that most children are better off with their families, even if their is some abuse, than in foster care. Please just have a heart to heart with her.