Is anyone afraid that their spouse would not be attracted to them anymore if they drastically change their appearance? My definition of drastic change is 5+ shades lighter, depig or any other major cosmetic change. Or do you think your partner would be excited like Christmas morning unwrapping a new present every night? Donâ€2122t get me wrong, as a married woman I know my spouse expects me to age as time goes by or possibly gain weight etc. But if he/she married you as a darker skin person and loved you enough to dedicate their life to you would they still be attracted to you with a completely different look? Lastly, how do you introduce this desire to change appearance? Oh honey, I walked the dog, cooked dinner and ordered a crate of HQ to change my skin tone?