Rishi...i have read a couple of your threads and feel for you in your situation. I would like to make the comment the although it is true that your husband may feel worse as he starts to deal with his childhood issues...unless he is willing to do this...they will always be there. It may not be easy for some time but it is never easy living with emotional baggage either...your own or someone elses, especially someone close to you, as im sure you are aware. He needs to see a professional so that one day he can become whole and free...maybe not completely but a whole lot more so. I know several males in my own life who are taking steps to deal with their issues..both close to me...and it has helped them.